Money Money Money and Tarot is our topic. That damned Ania was anti-bunny this year so she’s forcing us to talk about money and oracles. 😀 Okay, so she’s not really forcing us but I thought I’d whine a bit.
Money and this Pisces are not the best of friends. I am very fond of spending my money. My darling husband is more a fan of keeping the stuff. We usually find a common ground. But when we don’t? Oh good gods, y’all! It’s fireworks then–and I don’t mean the fun kind.![IMG_3132[1]](https://tarotbyarwen.com/wp-content/uploads/2016/03/IMG_31321.jpg)
It’s the kind that breaks things. No, we don’t throw stuff, but trust and love can get damaged when money comes up.
While this isn’t a spread per se, these sets of questions are designed to get you talking to your partner (or partners if you are in a poly group). Use it as a springboard for fine tuning your own money relationships. You can use them for opening up communication. Please note that if you get triggered easily, you should find a good therapist to work with you and your partner. Money is one of the deal-breakers in many marriages.
(For Poly folk, just add a card after Person 1 and Person 2.)
Person 1: What is your biggest block around money?
Person 2: What is your biggest block around money?
Person 1: What is your biggest financial dream?
Person 2: What is your biggest financial dream?
Person 1: How do you relate to money?
Person 2: How do you relate to money?
Person 1: How do you want Person 2 to think about money within your relationship?
Person 2: How do you want Person 2 to think about money within your relationship?
You can create your own dialogues as well of course. Just stay open to the idea that you are exploring this with your other half. Don’t make it a war, please.
The secret of avoiding those issues is to have both joint and separate accounts. The joint one is the pool for all the necessary household and joint expenses – pay in a fixed monthly amount (doesn’t have to be equal, just agreed and top up as required for exceptional expenditure) and then proceed on the understanding that your personal finances are for you to dispose of as YOU choose, no questions asked. Don’t ask, don’t tell. No more arguments 😀
lol I spent 25 years discussing reasonably until I finally flipped out and declared an all out war that resolved things into a happy arrangement…
I will need to try that spread with Willie! We both mostly share the same views about money. Except the ones that indicate owning two motorbikes is fiscally prudent. And that’s not me 😀
Darn! That means I have to be nice to Brian. lol! I actually do this with him sometimes so that he understands where I am at and where he thinks we are at. Mwhahahaha! I hold the large coin purse in the family.
Hmm, my Dear One and I just skirt around money matters, for the most part. We do also follow Ania’s “joint and individual accounts” motto 🙂 Still, whether together or on my own, those are some good questions to explore! Thanks, Arwen 🙂
I’m totally gonna use this as a spread! I’ll probably just use it for me and I’ll tinker with it some but I think it will work that way. When I do it I’ll link back here. Thank you, as usual, for the awesome Arwen!
I think I could have used this spread profitably in the past!….. maybe for my nest relationship 😀