Assholerieness + Breathing

Others? Not so much. They snap. They lash out. They turn into control freaks or sodden masses of hysteria. Or they utilize alternative methods of therapy.

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Moon_MG#affirmation Sometimes the people you love make themselves very unlovable. They exhibit assholerieness that could be the end of a relationship, if…

If you allow yourself to not see the person behind the curtain. If you forget to take in to consideration their circumstances. Everyone of us reacts to stress. Some of us do it with aplomb. We channel it and manage it beautifully.

Others? Not so much. They snap. They lash out. They turn into control freaks or sodden masses of hysteria. Or they utilize alternative methods of therapy.

Alcohol.
Drugs.
Television.
Computer games.
Shopping.

I tend to shop and lose myself in tv and books. What about you?

The Moon card is a card that reminds me to look at the illusion, to manage the emotional outpouring. It can speak to being overwhelmed by things beyond our control.

One thing that I do know is that it is damned difficult to not snap back when snapped at. I have learned that I have to look behind the temper. I have to assess what is really going on.

Are they mad at me or is this something brought on by stress? What are the extenuating circumstances?

Sometimes the only way I can manage my own innate need to protect myself against this unexpected anger is to withdraw. But that pulling back could hurt someone else.

So today’s affirmation is one way I deal with this pushmi-pullyu effect.

Today I breathe before I respond. I exist in this moment. My body, my mind, my heart are here for this particular now. I respond as I breathe –carefully and with the intention of healing. I forgive those who lash out. I protect myself from becoming an emotional punching bag. Loved and loving, I love each of you. Seek joy, y’all. Pass it on.

Moon, Tarot of a Moon Garden, U.S. Games Systems Inc

The Right Kind Of Rest?

Four of Swords Tarot of a Moon GardenToday’s card is from a deck I saw online and HAD to have. Why? Well this card is one of the reasons. I mean…dragonfly swords? What’s not to love about USGames Tarot of a Moon Garden?

While I am mad for dragonflies (have one tattooed on my arm!), they are not what pull me into this card today. No. The first thing was the knight’s helm. Empty. But where was the knight? I saw the unicorn with the interesting interpretation of what seems to be the Eye of Ra.

I saw a piece of armor on the other side of the unicorn. Then I realized that it was two leg pieces. What’s more? Those weren’t empty.

I tracked back to the unicorn and then I saw him, or her. Leaning against the unicorn, is a knight who has just had enough of the battle.

Taking solace in his companion, our knight rests. His sword is ready if he needs it, but for now, he rests.

I am reminded that I don’t rest enough. I don’t take down time as often as I should. I work 8 hours (9 if you include lunch), then come home to do readings, work on the blog, write, take care of the animals, the house.

Now I don’t think my life is all that unusual, darlings. We all live a busy life. But sometimes I live it as if I’m a paratrooper on a plan with a jump master screaming, “GO GO GO” in my ear.

I have to wonder if that is necessary. Today I have a full schedule. Part of that is chatting with someone about cleaning my place for me. Having that off my plate would be nice. And she is an organizer to boot. So I’ll be talking about that as well.

We all need the right kind of rest. What is your “right kind?”

That’s your journal prompt for today.

“What is the right kind of rest for me? What makes me feel refreshed?”

Four of Swords, Tarot of a Moon Garden, USGames [aff]

#seekjoy, y’all. Pass it on!