Noses, Spite & Prizes

Then I can remember to breathe and seek joy. Sometimes that joy comes from me laughing at my own toddler (hello T-Rex in a onesie!) response.

Today’s card reminds me that sometimes I cut off my own nose just to spite my face. Decisions that don’t serve my best interests are often made in haste or in anger.

Here we see two workers who seem to be in a race to finish. However, they’ve just chopped down two viable grape vines because they weren’t focused on the outcome–just the moment.

When I make a decision based on the moment rather than the outcome, I am not always doing the best for me. For instance, if I am in an argument with my honey (I know! It happens. 😀 ) and I think, “Oh screw this and screw you…I’d be better off on my own.”, well that’s not really the best immediate action. I have to stop and evaluate everything.

1. Is this a pattern he and I have?
2. Am I coming from a stressed out place making this event worse?
3. What would it look like if I were in his shoes?

Then I can remember to breathe and seek joy. Sometimes that joy comes from me laughing at my own toddler (hello T-Rex in a onesie!) response.

So when you are faced with a decision that is coming from a reaction instead of action, stop. Weigh it out. Evaluate all sides. Check your emotional status and understand that you may not be looking at the long term planning.

I do this at work a lot. I get MAD about what seem like stupid decisions. If I’m an adult and think as if I owned the business, then I can see the value in the long term. It still chafes me to make the changes (I love change, don’t you?) but I can focus on the end result.

Like the song says, “Keep your eyes on the prize.”

Seek joy, y’all. Pass it on.

2 of Swords, Tarrochi di Bacchus, Del Negro 2006