Assholerieness + Breathing

Others? Not so much. They snap. They lash out. They turn into control freaks or sodden masses of hysteria. Or they utilize alternative methods of therapy.

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Moon_MG#affirmation Sometimes the people you love make themselves very unlovable. They exhibit assholerieness that could be the end of a relationship, if…

If you allow yourself to not see the person behind the curtain. If you forget to take in to consideration their circumstances. Everyone of us reacts to stress. Some of us do it with aplomb. We channel it and manage it beautifully.

Others? Not so much. They snap. They lash out. They turn into control freaks or sodden masses of hysteria. Or they utilize alternative methods of therapy.

Alcohol.
Drugs.
Television.
Computer games.
Shopping.

I tend to shop and lose myself in tv and books. What about you?

The Moon card is a card that reminds me to look at the illusion, to manage the emotional outpouring. It can speak to being overwhelmed by things beyond our control.

One thing that I do know is that it is damned difficult to not snap back when snapped at. I have learned that I have to look behind the temper. I have to assess what is really going on.

Are they mad at me or is this something brought on by stress? What are the extenuating circumstances?

Sometimes the only way I can manage my own innate need to protect myself against this unexpected anger is to withdraw. But that pulling back could hurt someone else.

So today’s affirmation is one way I deal with this pushmi-pullyu effect.

Today I breathe before I respond. I exist in this moment. My body, my mind, my heart are here for this particular now. I respond as I breathe –carefully and with the intention of healing. I forgive those who lash out. I protect myself from becoming an emotional punching bag. Loved and loving, I love each of you. Seek joy, y’all. Pass it on.

Moon, Tarot of a Moon Garden, U.S. Games Systems Inc

What would you like to change back and why?

DreamingWay_18Moon19SunToday’s cards are from US Games’ Dreaming Way Tarot. I really love this deck. It’s quirky with images that often make me turn my head this way and that.

Here are the Sun and the Moon. What I particularly like here is the small child crawling out for a lollipop. She’s bare and free of worry. Her future is bright.

Then we see the same girl (perhaps) more mature. She has learned to cover her body–from shame or peer pressure or even personal taste, we can’t know. She gingerly holds the lobster. Again, this is something she wants, but she has also learned that she has to deal with the consequences of her emotional choices.

East of the Sun, West of the Moon is a fairy tale that always makes me think of a favorite book by Pearl S. Buck. I know…my mind…it’s a weird synaptic journey.

But the book is East Wind: West Wind: The Saga of a Chinese Family (Oriental Novels of Pearl S. Buck) and is about a very traditional Chinese bride married to a very modern Chinese man. It’s a clash of cultures but more than that, really. It’s about blending. It’s said to be one of Buck’s very best. I’d be torn between that and Imperial Woman. I simply adore Imperial Woman.

But back to the Sun and the Moon. Today I’m asking you to tell me something. What do you think has changed drastically from your child self to your adult self?

What would you like to change back and why?

Journal time! 😀

And if you feel like it, I’d really like to know.

Sun, Moon, Dreaming Way Tarot, U.S. Games [aff]

Dreaming, Growing & Dichotomies

What do you snip off too soon? What do you not give enough growth time to? For many of us, myself included, it’s time to dream. I think I must be doing something in order to grow.

FairyTale_18MoonToday’s card reminds me of the growth that dreaming can inspire. Here lies Sleeping Beauty with her little cat on her legs. A beautiful picture of a castle hangs above her. The moon shines in casting glittering light on her face. Through the window a vine creeps.

It’s that vine that caught my eye. So often we trim things back. We don’t just let them grow, do we? I know someone who has allowed an outside vine into her house. It’s always a bit startling to walk through that front door to see green growth following me.

What do you snip off too soon? What do you not give enough growth time to? For many of us, myself included, it’s time to dream. I think I must be doing something in order to grow.

But really? Do I? If I don’t give myself time to dream…time to creep into other realities…time to stretch myself, how can I grow? It’s a dichotomy.

It’s a dichotomy that works, y’all. Do what needs to be done to achieve your goals. Yesterday I finalized an agreement with am artist that I admire. This person will be illustrating my Fairy Tales Tarot Spread eBook. By the way? The unillustrated version is free and if you get the workbook+planner, you get the unillustrated version for free AND the illustrated version once it is ready. Can’t beat that with a stick, right?

So I spent some time with that workbook+planner dreaming. I “wasted” time by lolling about with a pen and paper scribbling down things I wanted in my life. One of those things was to have an artist illustrate my spreads book.

Then I did something about that dream. I actually asked two people who were at the very top of my dream list and one said yes.

**THUD**

Yes? OMG! So not only did a dream come true, I checked a goal off of my 2013 goals on January 2. SECOND! I’m still pinching myself over that one.

So what are your dreams? What are your goals? What are you doing to achieve them? Are you spending time dreaming and creeping into other realities? Are you spending time actually writing down the goals and the steps?

Well why not? Let’s get to it, y’all! There are 362 days left in 2013. That’s plenty of time.

The Moon, The Fairy Tale Tarot, Lisa Hunt, Llewellyn Publishing, 2009

Seek Joy, Y’all. Pass it on.

The Tarot Nose: The Moon

La Luna Bella! A woman invokes the energies of the full moon, while all around her spiral the eight lunar phases. Each month the moon embodies the cycle of descent and return, as it waxes to full- ness, wanes to darkness, and begins to wax again. The Moon is constantly changing, and She is utterly faithful in Her changes. — Joanna Powell Colbert

Amanda, the fabulous parfumer extraordinaire, has done it again. This time she tackled the Moon. When I first got this one, my nose was put off a bit by the sharpness of the scent. But I came back to it time and time again. I had to know what this was. Continue reading “The Tarot Nose: The Moon”