To make a pretty exciting announcement. Continue reading “We Interrupt This Blog…”
Yesterday I did a prediction for the Oscars as part of Project T.A.R.O.T. You can learn more about it here. How did I do? Here are my picks and the actual winners.
Yesterday I did a prediction for the Oscars as part of Project T.A.R.O.T. You can learn more about it here.
How did I do? Here are my picks and the actual winners. Continue reading “Results: Oscar Winners vs Arwen’s Predictions”
Oh, what is written on the 9 of Disks’ arms is the Latin terms solve and coagula. This means to dissolve and coagulate, which are opposing alchemical processes. Fascinating.
Thoughts? Comments? Insights?
Back to Elemental Dignities I go. I went up to see my honey this weekend which included an amazing hike in the Wichita Mountains Wildlife Refuge. I was rejuvenated.
I pulled this triad late but focused on today as the information I was looking to access. My, but I was suprised. 😀 Continue reading “Ouroboros, Home & Baphomet”
This is not someone else’s problem. It’s not some third world country’s problem. It’s happening in your community even as you read this. Don’t fool yourself into thinking it’s not. Let your voice be heard. You can make a difference simply by echoing what others are saying. You can bring hope to the hopeless. Just Do it.
I admit it. I’m a football fan and a Super Bowl freak. There are so many things wrong with major sports today including a significant increase in human trafficking. Indianapolis even passed a special law that has already been put to good use. Two women were freed from forced prostitution.
I have friends who are Continue reading “Super Bowl, Sex & Winners”
I’d like to take this opportunity to blame Mary Nale for everything I do or say wrong. I will forget an important name. I will stumble over some common word. I will mix some down-to-earth analogy up. It’s how I roll. Even though I know I’m perfect. HA!
I’m going to be live on the radio today from 3pm- 5pm CST which is 9pm-11pm UTC. I’m so proud of myself for my mad math skillz. 😀
Here is their blurb:
TarotTodayRadio.com …to Listen & Join us in the Chat Room! SHOW TIMES: 1pm Pacific/ 4pm Eastern/ 9pm UK Want to get right on? Make a Donation to support the Show and let us know in chat – No Waiting! Click here www.Donate.TarotGuild.com then let the host know when you call in.
That number is (347) 637-3372
I’d like to take this opportunity to blame Continue reading “Gwenyth, Radio & George Takei”
The subject is “How can I be the best candle.” The only parameters were that we use that topic and make it related to Tarot or an Oracle deck. As I thought about the question, it occurred to me that a candle can do several things.
Welcome to the first of what I hope will be 6 a year Tarot Round Robins. This came about because of a post on Facebook in a group called Tarotholics. Someone (me) said we should do a round robin where we all posted on the same subject and linked to the blog before us and after us so folks could peruse a number of Tarot blogs. Well that was really well accepted. We have a total of 34 Tarot bloggers for your first round robin. I’d love it if you could leave me a comment just to let me know you were here. And comment as you hop. 😀
Hopefully you got here from Continue reading “#Tarot Blog Hop: Imbolc Tour”
I love Kris Waldherr’s artwork and writing. She’s a multi-talented gal who constantly stretches her own boundaries. I was blown away by the Goddess Tarot for iPhone app. Now I’ve learned that she’s expanded out to the Android market as well. So I wanted to share this app with you again. AND, there’s a giveaway at the bottom. You can win this for yourself!
Here’s some comments from folks about that app. Continue reading “Goddesses, Androids & Contests”
La Luna Bella! A woman invokes the energies of the full moon, while all around her spiral the eight lunar phases. Each month the moon embodies the cycle of descent and return, as it waxes to full- ness, wanes to darkness, and begins to wax again. The Moon is constantly changing, and She is utterly faithful in Her changes. — Joanna Powell Colbert
Amanda, the fabulous parfumer extraordinaire, has done it again. This time she tackled the Moon. When I first got this one, my nose was put off a bit by the sharpness of the scent. But I came back to it time and time again. I had to know what this was. Continue reading “The Tarot Nose: The Moon”
A lesson on where I was and where I am now. This involves otters, mirrors and unicorns pooping rainbows…
So if you are a regular reader here, you know I’m all about the joy. Back in 2005 or so, I started on what I jokingly called the Arwen Remodeling Project. People who have known me through the years will tell you I was a much different person back then.
- More inclined to bitterness
- A bitch, really
I would happily engage in online battles. In fact, I was a proud member of both WitchWars and WitchWarsII where it was common to shred someone verbally. I gave as good as I got. I ganged up on people with others. I cut them down. I was praised for my cruelty, my sarcastic wit. I enjoyed it. Then something changed.
I can’t tell you what that was. I’m really not sure. I can’t pinpoint when I decided that the rage was not just making me a very unhappy, unpleasant woman. Worse. It was killing me. I realized I truly didn’t like myself. As in, I was not a woman I’d be friends with. I was Lucy Van Pelt. Ouch.
During that really dark time, I went through a lot. I not only broke up with a male partner but got stuck with a house that got repossessed. My mother died from cancer after a long battle. I went to a horrible place when I lost her. She was one of my best friends. I got into a relationship that fed my unhealthy behaviour. Again, I got complimented for being a really gross human being. I was doing poorly at a job I had excelled at (and been at for nearly five years.) I nosedived.
I went from dark, angry, bitter to far worse. I pulled away from my spiritual group and in fact self-sabotaged there as well. I was an amazingly talented self-saboteur. There are friends from that time that I have begun to rebuild friendships with but there are others who will never allow me that close again.
I don’t blame them. I was, as one friend put it, toxic. I poisoned nearly everything I was involved in.
Then, as they say, I hit rock-bottom. I remember it clearly. I was taking a two week break in Louisiana. My sister had given me free run of her guest house. I spent a lot of time there crying, journaling and reading Tarot. Tarot was like a life line for me at that point. I didn’t think my Gods had abandoned me. I knew I’d abandoned Them. I feared They wouldn’t want me back.
As hard as that two weeks was, I survived it. Even knowing I was going back to a crumbling marriage. Even knowing I was going back to quit my job. Even knowing I was going back to move out of my home and potentially losing my step-kids forever. I survived.
Why? I realized I had to change. Not for them. For me. I had to become someone I wanted to be with. Y’all, I had to like myself enough to fall in love with me again.
So I quit my job and got another one where I excelled. Still I wasn’t happy in Denver. I needed a change of scenery because the only person I saw in my mirror was that sad, tired, bitter woman struggling to become someone else. So I moved to Austin. I owe a debt of gratitude to a man named Conner that I will never ever be able to repay. He’s my hero because he gave me a way out.
When I got there, there was a person that I greatly admired and even loved. I wanted to be just like her. Then we had a falling out. I found out that her outside did not match her inside. I nearly fell apart again. I thought about moving–running away. My sister challenged me to stick it out. Others did too. Thank you to everyone who did.
Instead of running, I adopted a saying from my sister.
I can only control what is in my hula hoop.
I also realized that the person I had so wanted to emulate was like I used to be. Candy on the outside. Shitty on the inside. I set up boundaries to make sure I kept her as far away as possible. And, yes, it hurt.
Doesn’t it always hurt when you find out that someone you’ve so admired has been trashing you behind your back? Sadly, it wasn’t only me that this happened to. I practiced focusing joy on her then. My friends began to see why I’d distanced myself from her. They have done the same in the following years. It was hard damned work. Still is as even after all these years, I sometimes check in on her public self to see how she is. It’s like picking at an old scab.
During that time with her, I blurted out on Twitter, “Seek joy, y’all.” And it stuck. So she gave me something invaluable actually. That’s become my thing. My motto. I even have a pendant with that on it. The pendant features the 3 of Water from the Gaian Tarot. In this card, there are two otters on top who are kicked back. They are enjoying the sun, the water, the food. But the third otter is the one I identify with. He or she is diving into the water beneath the other two. Her whiskers are slicked back from the water sluicing along her nose as she seeks her joy.
That otter is me now.
I can’t begin to tell you how hard it was to transition from that other woman to this one. The hours of therapy, writing, crying, talking it out with friends are immeasurable. The value of all of that sustains me even now. So when I get comments like this from people I respect and admire…it means so much to me.
You are inspiring me in a bigger way than you can ever know. I have adapted your philosophy. Thank you.
I responded with
You can’t imagine how happy this makes me. Thank you. I am grateful to have your reflection in my joy mirror.
Each of you reading this are in my joy mirror. Now whether that is as a reminder or a lesson? That’s up to you. Seeking joy is not easy. It’s a struggle many days. I have to verbally remind myself. I have to smack myself upside my own head when I wake up cranky. Sometimes I wish I could just stop seeking joy for a bit. Some days I fail miserably at being happy.
But you know what? When I look in the mirror, I like who I see. I’m in love with the woman I see. That keeps me on the straight and joyful. Even when I fall off the joy wagon, I know it’s far better to make the hard climb back up. Laying in the bitter gutter is no longer an option.
Seek joy, Y’all. Always. Especially on the “woke up late, everyone is driving slow intentionally, hungry, need more coffee, the whole world is stupid” days. Especially on those days.
So if you think I’m being a rose-colored glasses-wearing Pollyanna who poops rainbows and farts unicorns?
You’re right. 🙂
And I invite you to join me on that journey. It’s been six years since I wrote the above post. I’ve moved out of Austin, TX. I still come back to this post routinely. It’s still as urgent to me to seek joy today as it was then. I do thank all those who taught me (positively or negatively) how to be a better joy seeker. I take other people on Joy Journeys and help them re-calibrate their joy. I consider it my joy to help others bring joy back into focus in their lives. Let’s get you started today.
(updated 1/7/2017 from the original 06/25/2011 edition)
Because I want you to try seeking joy. I want you to allow joy into your life. I want you to imaging joy on all levels. Yep, I want you to seek joy, y’all.