If I had read this before, would it have made a difference?
OH GODDESS! I just did my sister and I for kicks and grins? THE EXACT SAME THING AS M. snort. That would have told me something right there! hahahahahahahahahah!
About Your Sample Report: Your Heart’s Desire number is one chapter in the Relationship Compatibility Report. Your Heart’s Desire reveals the Soul’s path for people relative to each other. For a more in-depth look into your compatibility, including advice on how to deal with possible friction so your relationship can succeed, upgrade to the full Relationship Compatibility Report today. (You won’t have to re-enter your birth data.) If you’re interested in making it work with that special some one, you should read your Relationship Compatiblity Report.
Arwen , your Heart’s Desire is 9
You want to be of service to the world. Your deepest satisfaction comes from knowing that you have advanced the cause of humanity.
Your ideals are of the highest order. You are a perfectionist. You strive to make the world a utopia; to make each person’s lot in life better; to become perfect yourself. One of your challenges in life is to strive toward your lofty goals and at the same time recognize the good you are doing.
You like and are fascinated by people from all walks of life. Human nature is a lifelong study for you. You are highly intuitive, but not an especially good judge of character. You are a bit naive, as well, thinking perhaps that all people have the same values as you.
You dream of having the resources to immediately relieve the suffering of others, whether it is economic, physical, or psychological.
You are gifted with a good mind and a great deal of wisdom, which makes you a natural teacher, counselor, or healer.
As much as you desire to be of service to others, you also crave fame and the approval of the masses. Much of the energy you expend in life is directed toward putting yourself before an audience, most often as a salesperson whose product provides some social good; as a philanthropist; or an artist.
You are attracted to the arts as a vocation, especially as an actor, photographer, or writer. But whatever your profession, any involvement in the arts, even as a hobby, will provide you with a deep and lasting satisfaction.
Secretly, you dream of having a big impact on the world. Others may see this as egotism, especially when you are still young. But your concern for others is genuine. You must apply yourself in this direction in order to become psychologically whole and personally satisfied.
Your vision is on the crowds of people, which can cause you to overlook the needs of those closest to you. You need personal love as well, but have a tendency to put your needs in the background. Still, you are a loving person, and only need to be reminded to direct and demonstrate that love to those nearby. If, however, you are focused exclusively on the masses, people will perceive you as distant and a bit aloof.
You are emotional, and sensitive. You can also be moody and critical. You have high expectations for yourself and others. This can cause you much anger when your expectations are unfulfilled. One of your most important life lessons is to forgive.
Because you are striving hard to attain high ideals, you may think of yourself as superior to others. Arrogance is a trap many 9s fall into. The danger is that arrogance cuts you off from the thing you love the most: people.
Your happiness and contentment are therefore highly dependant on the ease with which you are able to serve and influence mankind.
It is the paradox of your Heart’s Desire that you receive by giving. Both your material success and spiritual satisfaction are made possible through service and sacrifice to others.
Mike, your Heart’s Desire is 19/1
Your overpowering need is to be independent and to direct your own life according to what you believe. Your dream is to become the leader of whatever field you enter. Whether it is in business, community, or in your general area of expertise, you are driven to be the reigning figure.
You have the courage and the confidence to lead others. You believe firmly that your judgment is preeminent over all others. This gives you the confidence to make bold decisions and carry them out, even when other lives are greatly affected by what you do. You rarely look back once you have made a decision.
You possess intelligence and wit. You are keenly insightful and are good at evaluating the abilities of others.
You are supremely individualistic. In your manner and dress, you like to project your own unique persona.
Consequently, you don’t mind being controversial, and can even enjoy the attention and impact you have made on your surroundings.
You dislike routines, or anything that limits your freedom and independence.
Whenever you commit to something you truly love, you are absolutely tenacious in your ability to endure difficulties and overcome obstacles. You are highly responsible; you hate passing the buck. You possess remarkable willpower and a strong drive to succeed.
You are always looking for innovative ways of doing things.
Because you seek to be the boss in any endeavor, you have a tendency to dominate others. If you are not careful, especially in dealing with your subordinates and family, you may become ruthless in your decisions and behavior. You can also fall victim to impatience and intolerance, particularly if you grow conceited or superior.
You are the pioneer and the ground-breaker. You love the foreground, the hot-seat of responsibility. You have all the talents to succeed. As long as you maintain balance in your life, allowing others full expression of their thoughts and abilities, you will easily rise to the top of your chosen field and realize your ambitions.
Your Heart’s Desire’s compatibility is 9 and 1
Due to the fact that both of you have a tendency towards arrogance as well as to being somewhat egocentric, this is a very difficult relationship, as far as romance is concerned. At least in this aspect of the chart. It will only work if a certain amount of distance is maintained. Each of you has to live your own life. Ironically, although difficult, this is not a bad combination for most other kinds of relationships. Friendships, parent-child as well as business relationships, often work very well with this combination. Precisely because the numbers stand on opposite ends of the spectrum. They complement and balance each other. Together, they represent a lot of talents and useful qualities that ensure a powerful combination in most relationships, except in romance.
It is in romance that these numbers tend to be challenging.
The solution lies in mutual understanding, not to get in your partner’s way, not to expect your partner to always be there for you, and certainly not to expect your partner to live the kind of life you feel is right.
This combination has a much better chance of surviving if Mike and Arwen have the number two and/or six among their other core numbers.
The numbers one and nine are far apart and this is reflected in Mike and Arwen ‘s understanding of each other. In many areas of life you are so different that you can’t even relate to the other person’s view. And, as with every romantic relationship, these shared views are required. We feel secure in the knowledge that our partner confirms what we feel and think. And, if the relationship between Mike and Arwen is of the romantic type, there will just not be much of that.
Very often, when a one and a nine engage in a romantic relationship, the people on the periphery think it is very funny to see them together. Together but yet so different, so unique. Neither Mike nor Arwen tends to conform easily to the rules and expectations of society. And that is one of the few characteristics you have in common. However, you probably dress very differently, have very different tastes, and consider different things important. Chances are that you are each other’s polar opposite. And, while we say that opposites attract, the trouble is that they also tend to push each other away when they get too close.
There are no easy solutions or foolproof guidelines that work here. If you have been together for a while and your love is strong, this love will keep you together. If the relationship is fairly recent, your focus should be on your heart, your pure and unconditional love for your partner. And here is the most important advice to make this relationship last: Don’t expect to change or influence your partner.
Ok now for Paula and I. I cut out the part about me. That doesn’t change.
Paula, your Heart’s Desire is 16/7
You love knowledge, study, and insight. You value the gifts of your mind, which you use to great advantage to penetrate the mysteries of life. You study things in-depth. You search beneath the surface of things. You abhor shallow judgments or opinions.
You have a natural gift for analysis and research. Once you have grasped the facts of a subject, your creativity and abstract approach lifts your thinking beyond the rudimentary to the philosophical. You have a theoretical mind, but rather than indulge in fantasies or idle thought, you prefer to base your theories upon scientific facts.
You enjoy mental and physical puzzles — figuring them out, taking them apart, and putting them back together.
Some people may perceive you as cool or aloof. You are somewhat introverted; you may feel slightly removed and even a little different. The fantasy of the hermit or monk engaged in a life of study and meditation appeals to you.
In relationships, you tend to keep things business-like and impersonal. You prefer to talk about the facts of a given situation, rather than the cloudier issues of emotions and personal feelings. You distrust feelings — both your own and those of others. The whole emotional realm strikes you as unreliable, and a bit unnecessary.
Your inability to fully understand the emotional aspect of life is your Achilles heel. You are so rational that the unpredictability of the heart frightens and surprises you.
Your challenge is to trust. You need to share your heart with someone. This is a courageous step for you, but will result in enormous growth and satisfaction.
The advice here is to make a true connection with another human being. Without it, you may marry out of convenience or to fulfill social expectations, but it will not lead you out of loneliness. The more removed you are from people, the more you risk isolation, bitterness, and a cynical attitude toward life.
This choice represents a true crossroads in your development. By sharing yourself with others (without compromising your independence and need for privacy) you can cultivate your enormous charm and share your understanding of life. You are a natural teacher and advisor. And the wealth of knowledge you will accumulate in life is meant to be shared with others.
This is not to say that you must compromise on your need for privacy or time spent alone to contemplate life. These are natural aspects of your personality, which are essential to your growth. These characteristics should not be threatening to your spouse, but must be understood as fundamental to your being.
You are blessed with a great reserve of intuition, which can be cultivated by regular meditation and contemplation. Your “inner voice” is your greatest guide and friend.
You are idealistic and have high expectations for yourself. Learn to balance your serious nature with regular doses of fun.
Your intelligence and cultivation make you charming and distinguished in appearance. As you get older and more comfortable with your identity, people are naturally attracted to you. They see your wisdom, your deep understanding of life, and the refinement you radiate.
Your Heart’s Desire’s compatibility is 9 and 7
Paula and Arwen , the seven and the nine usually get along fine, as long as too much interaction is not required. Although compatible in some areas, they are not that interested in each other’s issues. If you imagine the seven and the nine as two archetypes forced to spend some time together in a social event, you might see them politely chatting about superficial stuff for a couple of minutes, then lapse into extended silence. However, there is no dislike, the issue here is simply a lack of interest.
Paula and Arwen , although the numbers in this part of your charts add no particular excitement and energy to your relationship, on the plus side we find that they rarely cause any kind of discordance.
Religion is one of the few areas where the seven and the nine tend to be incompatible. Arwen thrives on faith and has the intuitive understanding that all things are in balance. This understanding is also the reason why Arwen may occasionally experience completely unexpected financial windfalls in the form of an inheritance or some other stroke of luck. Paula, on the other hand, needs to be able to recognize logic and does not accept anything at face value. Paula questions everything and religious belief, at least as reflected by the seven in this part of the chart, is alien to Paula’s intellectual quest for understanding. Sometimes, this can turn Paula into a skeptic, even cynical, which goes against the faith of the nine.
Your completely different taste may well generate other areas of conflict. Paula might enjoy life in a great metropolis, while a cozy chalet up on a hill in the countryside would be like Paradise for Arwen . But one thing is for sure: when is comes to deciding colors and objects for your home, the nine is unquestionably better suited.
And because I was curious about Cai and I… (not sexual…she’s my best friend!)
Cai, your Heart’s Desire is 21/3
You love a good time. You are generally happy, friendly, and outgoing. You have a gift for gab. You are very witty, creative, and playful. You inspire and entertain people. You are considered by many a great companion.
Many outstanding comedians have this Heart’s Desire. You have a good mental and emotional balance and there is little that gets you down.
You have a gift for self expression and are drawn to the verbal arts — writing, acting, singing, and poetry. You may have a great talent in one of these areas. If your creativity is blocked or suppressed, you tend to daydream and fantasize. Your imagination needs a constructive outlet; otherwise, it may run away with you.
At the same time, you may have great difficulty expressing your deeper feelings and important personal thoughts. You prefer to stay on the surface, entertaining people with your wit.
If you fail to deal honestly with your inner nature, you may succumb to compulsive talking. Such behavior may be merely a way of siphoning off emotional energy that is building beneath your surface. Your deeply felt emotional life cannot be avoided or suppressed. But you possess the talent to channel these feelings into highly creative and artistic form. Art and self-expression are your outlets.
You need discipline to make full use of your abilities. Too often, you may scatter your energies in many directions, beginning projects that are never finished and never really succeeding in anything.
You success depends on your ability to commit to your work and to see it through to completion. You have so much creativity and inspiring upward energy that you are in desperate need of an anchor. Hard work and discipline serve this purpose and bring out the best in you.
Because you are gifted with such a sparkling personality, you are tempted to stay on the surface and play with life. You are confident and love the attention others give you, but these characteristics can lead to vanity and self-absorption.
You have the potential to live a very full and successful life thanks to your talent for artistic self expression. The key to your success is a balance between the creative forces and self-disclose.
Your Heart’s Desire’s compatibility is 9 and 3
This aspect of the chart, Cai and Arwen , reflects excellent compatibility between the two of you. The three and the nine can form a strong unity, one that often lasts for a very long time – if not forever.
They represent archetypes that are almost mythical in their romantic bond. Lots of stories of endless patience and self-sacrifice could be told about this unity. And what makes this so surprising is the fact that this is possible even though both numbers are considered self-centered, even egocentric at times.
Cai and Arwen , you both have powerful imaginations and intense inner lives, and that makes the two of you creative, albeit in very different ways. Cai has a unique, somewhat offbeat originality, and expects life to be full of unexpected events and turns. Arwen , in turn, likes to manipulate the environment until everything is harmonious. Arwen has the talent to combine colors and materials to create beauty in a disciplined manner. Cai appreciates the way Arwen seems to be able to control events and surroundings, while Arwen envies the easy manner in which Cai accepts, and takes advantage of, whatever life has to offer. This brings balance to your relationship.
Cai, your three in this part of the chart is often compared to the sun: you are warming and comforting to everyone, inspiring and uplifting to all. Arwen , the number nine you carry is the most idealistic and self-sacrificing number. Like the three, it offers its love freely and generously.
Although they are both loving, generous and worldly numbers, they can never forget for a moment that they are at the center of whatever they dispense.
So, they can sometimes conflict, in particular when both are vying for the same limelight. In such circumstances, they are like politicians in an election run-off. Even if, privately, they respect and like each other, they will try to take away the attention and spotlight from their partners. They can become very competitive, in which case, just like politicians, they will do anything to win, even start throwing dirt at each other if they feel justified.
But that is pretty much the only area where the three and the nine combination may encounter problems. This is, therefore, where you, Cai and Arwen , will have to be careful. Don’t become competitive. Don’t feel you have to put down your partner in order to elevate yourself. Instead, if you find that in social situations you compete with each other, take an honest look at yourself and acknowledge it. In essence, this number combination shows great compatibility in this aspect of the chart. Avoid competition and instead invest in building the caring, romantic, life-long unity that comes so natural to you.
February 21, 2003