Don’t Call Me Sister, Sister

Then they call me sister. And that’s when my fur goes right up. Don’t call me sister, sister.

Gaian Tarot Six of Water

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Gaian Tarot Six of Water
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Today’s blog challenge is about meeting spiritual people. I take that to mean people of a like mind. And I have a problem with that.

I often meet sweet, loving, well-intentioned people who are just beautiful souls. Then they call me sister. And that’s when my fur goes right up.

I understand they mean it on a spiritual, “we are all one” level, but it is a huge button for me. I have a sister. I have two in fact–one by blood and one by my mother’s marriage. They are the only people I call sister.

My best friend is my best friend. We are as close as sisters–closer actually if it comes down to it. But I don’t think of her when I think of my sisters. Her role in my life has been set since we were both sixteen years old. Best. Friend.

Forever, even.

I have had covensibs, but I called them my sibs not my brothers or my sisters. Siblings. Now don’t get me wrong. I totally get that that is just me playing at semantics.

This is MY hang up. My hard limit. My boundary line. In the Gaian Tarot’s Six of Water, Joanna uses the image of her Mermaid sisters in the water. They are joined hand-in-hand, heart-to-heart. I get that they are sisters.

Maybe it is the way I was raised. I have a huge family when it comes to cousins and other relations. We are tight for the most part. By tight, I mean we are all up in each others business.

When I meet another person who is on the same path as I am or a parallel path, I rejoice. I want to know them. I want to meet them. I want to stand in sacred space with them honoring our journeys.

I don’t want to call them brother or sister. For me to give that honorific to someone is to make them family on a level that surpasses spirituality for me.

So if I don’t call you sister or brother, don’t worry. It doesn’t mean that I don’t love you. It doesn’t mean that I don’t value your friendship, your path, your journey, you.

It just means that I have a different word for you. I want you to be my friend, my compatriot, my co-seeker. One day I may call you brother or sister, but that day will need to have many yesterdays in its wake. I hope you understand.

On another note, and a repetitive one for sure, I have a book coming out August 22. I need help getting the word out. Please go here and sign up to help out. It’s a ONE TIME thing.

Love the Gaian Tarot shown here? Get your own copy here. It’s my one of my favorite decks because of the artwork and the way it delivers.

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6 thoughts on “Don’t Call Me Sister, Sister”

  1. I’m with you, sister! (You know I had to do it!) I’m also in the Magic Up Your Blog Challenge and decided to read some before I posted, because my post came out a little ranty. Glad I started with yours Arwen! And I really do agree with you. You have a beautiful site, that I can’t wait to explore further. {sigh} Maybe in September…

  2. What about when people use the word ‘siSTAR’?! That really drives me bananas. When I first saw it I thought it was because the other person couldn’t spell, or had a slip on the keyboard, but then to my horror realised it was deliberate. Hateful! Blessings, Andrea

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