Wanna Come To Crazyville?

Housewives_11SwordsToday’s card reminds me that I often do things I know I should not be doing. It’s not as if I don’t know better. It’s as if I think I’m bullet-proof or that I can get away with it for just this one time. Like eating ice cream when I’ve worked to eliminate fat from my diet. Or running with scissors as our young Page of Swords does here.

This is the quirky and totally fun Housewives Tarot. This card represents those mental thoughts that we don’t quite have a handle on. Sometimes they run wild and hurt us or others. We create drama where there was none to create.

But what about when you are in a situation where a trusted friend turns into the Page of Swords? When someone you have always thought the best of suddenly goes straight off the rails into “cuckoo for cocoa puffs” territory?

How do you deal with that?

You can certainly shake your finger and admonish them to “Stop that” or to “Behave”. But does that do you any good?

I think not. I think it just makes me more involved in their crazy. I have to step out of my hula hoop into theirs to make them stop. And really, can I make anyone but myself stop?

All I can do is step away and isolate my interactions with them. I can monitor how I deal with them on a daily basis–if at all. Sometimes you have to. If they are someone I work with, I can’t turn my back on them. I have to offer them the same level of service as others.

What I can do is limit my energy interaction. I can throttle back my openness and create boundaries for me. I can make sure that when my erstwhile friend or co-worker, I am making sure my hula hoop stays as free and clear of their erratic behaviour as possible.

Is it fun to see someone I care about go off the deep end? Not even a little. Still, the person I must protect first is me. And to do that, I have to make sure my boundaries are tight.

One place that has helped me immensely in learning about how to maintain my own hula hoop is Leonie Dawson’s Amazing Biz + Life Academy. [aff] Come join me!

Your 180 second challenge is a two parter. The first is easy. Just think about those in your life who are inviting you to play in their crazy.

Now for the true challenge. Ask yourself this.

“Why am I RSVPing yes?”

I give you permission to decline those invitations. I assure you it is okay to say no to one more round of drama llama ding dong. Do it for you.

Seek joy, y’all. Limit your trips to other people’s Crazyville.

Page of Swords, Housewives Tarot, Quirk Books, 2004[aff]

2 thoughts on “Wanna Come To Crazyville?”

  1. I had a friend several years back who I eventually told I no longer wanted to have contact with. I realised not only was she in ding dong land, but despite protests to the contrary, she didn’t want to move out! She’s approached me a couple of times since, but still clearly loves living in dramaville, so I declined those RSVP’s. Not sure if there’s anyone right now who is in that pattern, or maybe they’re just not as bad so I don’t recognise it as clearly…

  2. I am happy to say I don’t have many like this in my life anymore. I have stepped away from those relationships and focused on taking care of my own crazyville town 🙂 It’s not so crazy anymore and I’m enjoying life!

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